Holiday Presence vs. Presents
One of my biggest regrets as a home-based working Mom of young children was that I often was not present. My teenagers now joke about asking me things when I was absorbed in a work task; “Mom can I have this, or do that…?.” and I’d say yes because I was ‘in the work zone’ and barely hearing them. I try harder to be present now…when it’s time to work I focus on work, when it’s family time, I try to be present and in the moment. Being present is the most important gift you can give to your work, your family and friends, or any other priority. So often we are rushing, stressed and trying to do too many things during the holiday season. This year I’m trying to make my ‘do’ list and ‘give’ list shorter, and my ‘be present’ list longer. Here’s some of my ideas for spending time with family and friends ~ without distractions like smart phones! Hang out and watch a movie, plan a game night, meet up with friends for coffee or tea, share a glass of wine over Facetime with family and friends who live in other cities, plan an outdoor activity day like skiing, skating or sledding, or a fondue… a painfully agonizing way to cook your food but a great way to linger at the table talking. Sometimes, just a few minutes of being fully present with yourself and others can make a world of difference.